Dear Steve and Shirley,
I am going through some tough issues within my relationship. I met this man in summer 2011. He was doing some work at my home. We started talking and became friends. After a while we were talking all the time on the phone, hanging out, and started a sexual relationship. We were both somewhat attached to other individuals but nothing serious. Fast forward summer 2012. We decided to be exclusive. He was my man and I was his woman. I decided I would give this relationship a chance and be faithful, honest, and give him everything he needs. Well he has baby mama drama. I knew of it but he seemed to handle it so I just let him handle it. His truck broke down and he uses it for work so he had to use his baby mama’s truck to do his side work that he does on houses during the summer months. Well, I didn’t like it very much but his explanation is he has to make money to get his truck out, etc. I feel that he needs her. He wants me to be ok with it. They seem to be cool one minute and the next they are at each other’s throats. She will take him to child support court and stop him from seeing his kids when she is angry and when they are getting along she will stop the child support. I have never met her or the kids and it is now 2013. One day he was on the phone with me and all of a sudden I hear her in the background out of nowhere screaming “Where the **** are you coming from?” To his defense he never hung up the phone with me and told her not to talk to him like that or question him. But I thought that was a bit much for her to scream on him like that if they have nothing going on. He said everyone acts different and that is how she acts. I believe in my hear t that there is still something going on between the 2 of them. He has never introduced me to his kids and he is around my kids all the time. I am on the verge of breaking it off with him because I am tired of the baby mama drama. He says there is nothing going on and that he loves me but I can’t handle the baby mama situation. I think he is having his cake and eating it too. Do you think there is something still between them? What should I do to handle this situation?
Thanks for your insight in advance,
Fed up with baby mama drama
