Hello Steve!!!...I'm a little nervous about writing this but I just have to get some kind of answer to this problem. Well there is this guy I have been knowing for about four years which at first I wanted to pursue an relationship with but because of the age difference and his relationship with my oldest brother I never said anything. He soon had became my "big brother" just as he was with my brother. But deep down I still wanted something with him... Okay now fast forward to October of last year... I had went out one day with some of my friends to a local party and he was there with some of his friends. Well after the party my friends were a little drunk and the designated driver was not a safe driver so I asked my "Brother" if I can ride with him...Of course he said yes but he had some of his friends with him. Usually after the parties everyone piles up at one place and this time it was the gas station(Don't Judge we country lol). We stopped and the other two guys got out. While in the car he told me he has been wanting me for years and wish we had the chance to be together and he just didn't know the perfect moment or time to let it be known considering he did not want to over step his boundaries with my brother...Now i was shocked to hear the news and I really thought he was running game but he got to pointing out things which led me to believe this guy really wants me. And u know deep down I was all for it but it didn't feel like the right thing to do considering he was off and on with his baby-momma. And for about 2 months prior to that night they have really been off which she is not accepting. He begged me to go back to his crib which I did. Nothing happened that night we just talked. I asked him to wait for "that" which he accepted with no problem. Now at the time I was also in a relationship which was not going so well. We swapped numbers and we had been texting and talking and hanging out secretlyevery chance we got. About a week after Valentines I was frustrated with my boyfriends lies and games and I needed some type of happiness so I went over to my ''brothers'' house. I knew what I was going over there for and it wasn't to talk. It happened. Yes I gave up the cookie. WILLINGLY and it was awesome...Something totally out of my character but I felt like I needed to do something out of the norm because of the relationship I was in. Not once before that did he ask me for some but just waited until I was ready. Now me and my ''brother" have been have been on the DL since the night of the party until now and have been messing around since February. its great like that...This is the problem... His baby-momma is a friend of the family...which to be honest my senior year in high school she was my coach and one of my mother's co-workers. Me and my family have known her for about 6 years. You see know one knew they were in any type of relationship until she became pregnant. That's when her crazy side came out. Now that they are really done with each other he want us to come out and let it be known we are together...I don't...I feel like it's not worth all the drama...And I have been around both of them when he has told her her he does not want to be with her...He just wants a relationship with his child. I have heard about the crazy things she has done to him and his belongings and even witnessed them. She even felt the need to just pour out her heart to me one day we all went out. She was telling me how she knows it is someone else in his life and she just wants him and he does not love her anymore and how he won;t have sex with her. She says He tells her things like he wants someone he can have through thick and thin and be able to have around when the money is gone and all of that. He wants someone who wants something out of life and goes after it instead of a woman that sits around with two kids not wanting to work and waiting one child-support check from one baby dad and just money from the other one. And all she does is smoke weed with her cousins and he just doesn't want that kind of life and how he is tired of arguing all the time about nothing. She went from being a positive role model to a hoodrat...literally...She quit her job and really everything he told her he doesn't want descries her. Honestly! This is not the Woman I knew. And it is not because she is going through anything but for the past 2 years that is how she has been...That is how she wants to "enjoy " life. She doesn't want to change. To sum all this Steve I just need to know what I need to do. He is a good man. But because of the relationship my family has with them both is it worth crossing the lines??? I mean we have both been wanting this for so long even before she came in the pic...Is it worth coming out now???