Good morning Morning Crew!
I need to vent this out! So let a girl vent. I am sick and tired of our friends asking for money! SICK of it! This week was the last straw! My husband's 45-year-old BEST friend called him. He needs (thousands of thousands of dollars) FOR surgery or he was going to die. Wait! The Obama Care provides healthcare, right? If this is life threatening, doesn't it fall under the Obama care? Why not ask your family for the money? I am tired of people calling my husband saying "I need, I need, I need". Now we REALLY don't mind helping folks out because it is more "happiness in giving" but let me give you the run down: In January my friend called asking for $120.00 to buy a cell phone, in February our cousins needed $500.00. Now the thousand dollar request to get "life-threatening surgery" WHAT the WHAT?! I need for people to stop asking my husband for money and get a JOB! And no, I don't believe this SAPSUCKER needs surgery. I told my husband if this is for real, call the doctor that is doing the surgery. As a matter of fact, go down and see the doctor. I AM SICK OF THIS, STEVE! GET A JOB!
@LW..you answer is so simple. NO spells, no! Give it to them straight, no chaser. Sooner if not later they'll get the message. P.T. Barnum said. Thers a sucker born every minute. If you're tired of being an ATM machine. Just say N O! Case closed. End of story. Make this day the best day of your life. VOLTAIRE
Annie Mae
47
Atlanta, GA - MAJIC 107.5 FM
This is simple and it's only a two letter word ... NO! Trust me, use it enough and they will get the point.
Connie C.
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Atlanta, GA - MAJIC 107.5 FM
That's your fault. If you don't want to be known as an ATM, stop giving money out. I have money, my family and friends know that I have money; but they don't ask me for any because they know that I'm not giving any out. If old dude needs surgery, he needs to go to the state hospital for it or find some kind of government program where he can get the surgery for free. Who pays for their friends surgery and what, "friend" would ask a "friend" to pay for their surgery? When you stop being the ATM to people, that's when you will find out who your friends are.
CJONES
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Atlanta, GA - MAJIC 107.5 FM
THIS IS A EASY FIX GO AHEAD AND LET EVERYONE KNOW YOU ALL ARE NOT A BANK. DO NOT GIVE ANYMORE MONEY LET PEOPLE FIX THEIR OWN PROBLEMS NEXT TIME SOMEONE ASKS, ASK THEM WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF YOU DID NOT KNOW US? THAT IS ENOUGH WITH ALL THAT MESS. I WOULD NOT GIVE ANOTHER RED CENT I DON'T CARE WHAT THE ISSUES WAS "DYING", CELL PHONE OR WHATEVER ELSE.
Chester
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Atlanta, GA - MAJIC 107.5 FM
Question how many times have your husband help this people out? It's OK to help people. Ask God to show you who he wants you to help out. My Pastor says sometimes if you keep helping the same person out, you only hurting them, because the thing you help them get out of, it will happen again.
People.
marcus
52
Charleston, SC - WXST 99.7 FM
Been there done that, they will drain you dry if you let them. Stop giving them money if you don't, you will end up broke.
ike
42
Chicago, IL - WVAZ 102.7 FM
You and your husband need to become philanthropists and get a tax write-off since it seem every month or so someone in your circle of family and friends need something. Seriously, you just need to say no or you'll help contribute to the cause with others, not solely. Everyone is trying to take your posterity for granted. Your husband obviously has a nice job or business where he has a nice penny in the bank, but it's his earnings not everyone's charity. Yes, they need to get a job or get government assistance that's out there in the case of the Life Threatening Illness. I have the same issues in my life, so I'm feeling you on that. I'm basically starting over from a bad marriage where I lost almost everything (a good job, a nice big three bedroom condo and my hair turned rapidly gray). I don't have big dollars to give, but hands are out.
Will
31
IHEART RADIO
Wow, there was a time when helping those in need was an honorable thing to do, now it's a burden. lady you have been blessed to help others, have you ever thought of that? No where in your letter did it say your husband was taking money out of your greedy mouth to give to others. If you have it to give then what's the big deal? What you need a new purse or a new pair of shoes or something? Geez, stop being so damn greedy and give, there is nothing wrong with that.
Reginald
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Lafayette, LA - KNEK 104.7 FM
He's a sugar daddy. Ain't nobody borrowing no money from him!!!
daha
43
Listen Online
Sitting here laughing about something Steve said last week. He said when people call and say they have an emergency he waits until two weeks to call them back because by that time the emergency should be over. Simple answer, Just say NO. It sounds like people are taking advantage of y'all. Tell your husband the bank is closing. Do not allow other people's problems to affect your marriage. If your husband decide to give the money tell him to go to the hospital the day of surgery. Calling won't help because HIPPA laws will prevent anyone from telling y'all anything without a release of information form. Its not good with a grudge so I say don't. Tell him to apply for government assistance or heck get it from his own people.
bjh
49
Listen Online
Sick and Tired; tell your husband to grow a pair, wake up and smell the mess! In January, he should not have given his friend money for a phone. What's a phone without minutes? Why did he need $500? If he can't say, HECK TO THE NO, then take control of the bank accounts so these people will have to ask YOU. Things will change for sure, QUICK FAST and in a HURRY.
NJ Cougar
50
Listen Online
Good morning everyone. Letter writer, do you feel better now? Good! On to the next letter looking for their 15 minutes of fame.
MojoSkip
54
Listen Online
Tell to ask himself, "What you these people do if you or your wife weren't around?" Say NO and mean it.
WSC
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New Orleans, LA - WQUE 93.3 FM
Morning Crew! Look sick and tired (Girlfriend)! You need to KICK these FOLKS, cousins and all to the CURB! They know just what their doing. Some how you and your husband have let these folks know you'll got a little money and now its ON! ONCE YOU FEED A CAT OR A DOG, THEY KNOW WHERE TO GET THEIR NEXT PLATE OF FOOD AND THAT'S WHAT THEIR DOING. Straight up tell them NO and call it a day. They'll get MAD but so what. That's what you really want to do is piss them off and they won't come back. It's really sad when you try to help folks, what they do is keep coming back AGAIN and AGAIN and AGAIN. That's why when you have money unless you in the public eye, you can't let people know what you have. Even if they think you have money you have to act like your living from paycheck to paycheck! Just saying! Your husband shouldn't give them a RED CENT. TELL YOUR HUSBAND TO ASK HIM FOR SOME MONEY OR THE OTHER FOLKS YOU'VE GIVEN MONEY TO AND SEE IF HE GETS ANYTHING FROM THEM. STOP RIGHT NOW, THESE PEOPLE SHOULD BE A SHAME OF THEMSELVES. YOU HAVE TO LIVE YOU LIFE. GOD WILL CONTINUE TO BLESS YOU GUYS. YOU JUST CAN'T BE GIVING EVERY TIME YOU TURN AROUND. YOU NEED YOUR MONEY TO LIVE AS WELL! HOPE IT WORKS OUT FOR YOU GUYS! TAKE CARE. MS. VENT.
JJ
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New York, NY - 107.5 WBLS-FM
Married Finances should be mine, his and ours! Let your husband give everyone all the money he wants from HIS BANK ACCOUNT! Then you have your OWN MONEY to spend. And make sure that the bills are paid from the OURS BANK ACCOUNT! Is this really worth a Strawberry Letter? If your husband isn't writing the letter, then I don't see the problem! #nextletterplease
Lawrence
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New York, NY - 107.5 WBLS-FM
Do just like Steve and get a new phone number unlisted.
Dellie
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New York, NY - 107.5 WBLS-FM
This is ridiculous! God has blessed you enough that people are coming to you but it has to stop. Who in the world needs all that cash for surgery? If you don't have money, there are many avenues to travel. I wouldn't give a person a dime to buy a cell phone. Let them go to Tracfone and buy (as low as $9.99) or even get a free cell phone with minutes. Get my drift? If you don't have the money for it WAIT!
one111
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New York, NY - 107.5 WBLS-FM
If I had the money to lend your friend would have to show me that he had NO MONEY NO WHERE for asking! And I'd need a notorized statement saying he's not going to file his own taxes and allowing me to claim him and that's all. But I'm not giving anybody that kind of money expecting to get paid back in cash. I want his car title or something of big value first.
NICOLE LEWIS
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New York, NY - 107.5 WBLS-FM
It is obvious that these people are taking advantage of this couple. It is ok to be nice once in awhile, but they are not a bank. They need to say NO and there is nothing wrong with saying NO!! As my mamma always say, Money and friendship does not mix. Do not lend money.
Gee
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New York, NY - 107.5 WBLS-FM
You don't sound like you have a problem voicing your opinion, so what really is the problem? If your husband is kind enough to bless others, he will get that back. That's how it works. Are your bills not getting paid? Are you and your family going hungry? Doesn't sound like it. Listen, I think that you could've saved everyone some time reading this letter, and maybe you're just looking to throw some of these responses in your husband's face. You'd better watch your step before you end up out back. Be a blessing and you will be blessed.
Bruce
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Norfolk, VA - WVKL 95.7 FM
Your problem is your husband. Everyone knows he is the bank and bail out for them. Sounds like he's giving money away for non-important things. You must make him understand that your tired of this BS. You should have confronted your husband on the FIRST BS loan. Good Luck.
candy
21
Philadelphia, PA - WDAS 105.3 FM
He or she needs to calm down!
tiff tiff
32
Philadelphia, PA - WDAS 105.3 FM
I wouldn't be surprised that he is just telling you that as an excuse. He could possibly have a another life he is living. Proceed with caution!
Ginger
49
Richmond, VA - WBTJ 106.5 FM
Utilize your Caller I.D. more frequently!
Maymay
21
Shreveport, LA - KDKS 102.1 FM
TELL THEM HECK NAWL! BUT ONCE YOU START GIVING, THEY WANT TO SEE HOW MUCH THEY CAN GET.
Casey
46
Tallahassee, FL - WWLD 102.3 FM
It might be a good idea for you to communicate to your husband that these people are just using you two. As long as he keeps giving it out for this emergency or that emergency, they are always going to ask for money. Tell your husband that he needs to stop this because its affecting you guys marriage. Try to get your husband on the same page as you with this issue. People that comment in all caps need to know that they are yelling and screaming. And yes, this couple may have been blessed to give but if you keep giving and giving and giving soon you will look and you will have nothing else to give. I agree with the letter writer that these folks need to get a job and see about their own needs. God bless the child that has its own. My family is like that too. Every time I look up someone wants me to loan them money and they never pay it back. My mom has two grown children living with her and not working and when the property taxes are due, she comes to me. Well, I have my own bills to pay and I know she needs help but she is going to have to find a way to save the money for her own property taxes, pick up cans, put those low lives living in your house to work and make them come up with the property taxes. I will not be paying them this year.
Jazz
53
Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
One of the most powerful words in the English language is "No". After all, what would these folks do if you weren't there to support them?
Applepie
60
Washington DC - WHUR 96.3 FM
GM, to the letter writer just say NO! Well you can do the honorable thing and give them the money, since you think money grow on trees. This appears to be a couple who work hard for their money. How Is it that she is greedy?
