Subject: 20 year feud

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been with the man I love for over 20 years, we were married for 10 years, got divorced and now we’re living together again. Throughout all this time, we’ve had this feud going. For the past 40 years, I have 2 friends and we play 50/10 tunk all night…
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Subject: Scared Single Black Female!

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 32 year old pretty, no kids having, building my credit up, securely employed with full benefits, college educated, single woman! I have been single for 3 years. Growing up in the church, I was brought up to wait for the man. God is going to send you a…
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Subject: Down payment on love

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m 21 years old, living in South Carolina and I’ve been talking to a 23 year old guy from North Carolina for 5 years now. Currently, he’s building on a home he says is for us, but he says I can’t put my name on the lease because his name is…
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Subject: Virgin for the 2nd time

Dear Shirley and Steve, I am 45 years old now and a single mother of a fifteen year old daughter. I want to be a living example of what not to do so she will not make the mistakes I have made in my life. So I have made a conscious decision to practice abstinence…
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Subject: I don’t think my husband likes cookies

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am 50 years old and I got re-married 2 years ago. I read your book about the three things men need, and that the “cookie” was one of the three things. My question is, what if my husband doesn’t want or like the cookie? We have been fighting about this…
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Subject: Turning them down nicely

Dear Steve and Shirley, my question is simple… I want to know how you reject a man’s advances without making him angry with you?  My past experience has been that whenever I reject a man’s advances, he becomes angry. If it is a co-worker, I have to deal with him being short or not speaking…
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Subject: Should I Get My Man Back

Hello Steve and the morning crew I have a huge problem. I dated a married man for several months. We had a wonderful time together. We were able to date each because we’re in the military and he was stationed in the same place as I was and his wife lived in a different state….
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Subject: Let the past be the past!

Good morning Steve and Shirley. My wife and I listen to you each morning and usually agree with your comments, so I’m hoping you can help with my dilemma. While we were dating, I was cheating with my ex who is 20 years my junior and 13 years hers. There was a lot of lying…
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Subject: Age 50 and hot to trot!

Dear Steve &  Shirley, I have a boss that is looking for love but finds all the wrong men, especially young black men. She is white, but loves and has only been with black men. She’s about 50 years old and needs to work on her self-esteem. She confides in me about finding the right one, but how can…
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Subject: My man was nude on his profile picture

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been in a relationship for 5 years with a 57 year old man. Recently, I noticed that my boyfriend’s cell phone’s the battery was low and the phone was beeping. I looked over at the phone and I saw pictures of women. When I clicked on one of the…
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